Things to remember during challenging behaviour

Kids do the best they can. They want to do well. Sometimes it's just tough being When she's building up a head of steam, that's a good thing. She's using words and letting us know how she feels. I can focus on recognizing and validating her feelings. Sometimes she needs to Push against me to experiment with her bon independence, i 6 When she talks herself up and puts me down, I can model a Stoic approach. and show her what I'd like her to do if that happens to her. Sometimes she will 2022-07-27 EXPLODE: SHAME. Can't stop it while it's in progress. No point lecturing, she can't hear. Just keep both of us safe. Sometimes love is a closed door. When it passes, don't start trying to fix things. Try to build a bridge first. Notice the good stuff and build up from there. The long-term goal is for her to think of herself as a good person, and to act accordingly. It just shuts things down. If my bucket got emptied, resist the urge to empty hers. Refill my own, then help her. Remember the good moments. Appreciate how far we've come, and how quickly this time will pass. Love