How to Stop Losing Your Shat with Your kids

Carla Naumburg, PhD. 2019 Sketched by Sacha Chua (sach, ac, @sachac) p16 Feelings & Automatic in reaction Reactive in response pb Toxic to danger p21 What do you do when you freak out? That's the only thing under your control. story: bad parent raising bad kid 46 You're doing an p30 incredibly hard job, and you're doing it without the right information. Support, resources, and rest Therapy (or conversations) a place to lose it • clarity & insight • • perspective skills & strategies medication know Prefrontal cortex p42 plan, decide, think, Calm down · gets tired kids don't really have one 4 Å Fight Flight Freeze P48 Calm p60

Push L

buttonsMe!yourand triggers P68P1122022-08-19-01P1051 phones: triggersSleep&&&& SupportP118

• pro team, crew, peeps.

•• get clearask for help◉show up• respect yourWe are going to makethe buttons less pushable. boundariesYour jobs: p70keep kids happy safe2 Manage your emotionsTells:• Thoughts•FeelingsTriggers 180→ plan to dealwith themBodily sensationsBehaviors081•P125be kind wheneverpossibleP130self-compassionÅmetta p133... Simplify p136usatisfice p139Stretch p147yet☹ P46Freak outAwarenessAcceptanceAction·Fix itP153☑Learn to livewith itsaythankyoutriggers -Screwing up ∞ Being awesomeps2 not mutually exclusiveRing You're not alone. p522z2Sleeping again wasthe first crucial step →energy to take the next steps.8= Silence p150@slow down p1513 Breathe p154p87 BURPs: Button Reduction i & Space fromPracticesP92 Single-taskingSleepSupportSelf-compassionp195 After calm down, be curious, reconnectL☑kids p158Notice ô pizzPause BM p183RDo Literally Å p186anything else