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2018-07-06

UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING ALFIE KOHN (2005) Sketched by GIVING A TOO MUCH Chapter 11 CONDITIONAL PARENTING Chapter 2 WITHHOLDING LOVE Chapter 3 CONTROL Loving children for... If they T are what Time out they Avs who ☆ VS Extrinsic Intrinsic do Motivation from Love Good job! addicted False Conditional reward unconditional Behaviorism punishment - 17 Behavio 35 Transactional Focus View "earned it' WHAT HOLDS [Chapter 6 US BACK? H . Chapter 4 PUNITIVE DAMAGES punishment Over- Controlling even natural (alone consequences & "DOING TO" to praise excessively excessively punishment Compliant defiant self ton Contingent self-esteem Chapter 7 PRINCIPLES Sacha Chúa (sachachua.com) PUSHED TO Chapter 5 SUCCEED A+ $ Self. handicapping reward afraid of FAILURE vs embracing SUCCESS Chapter 9 CHOICES FOR CHILDREN Moral











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  1. Talk less,
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not just act
  1. Keep ages
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in mind
  1. Best possible
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